If you are single and reading this piece, thank God you
still have the opportunity to straighten out things in your life before you
make the marriage leap. Marriage is a life time journey that will take you till
you leave earth or when your spouse dies whichever comes first. You want to be careful
to not enter the vehicle without adequate preparations.
There are several things you have to note about your status,
the fact that decisions you make now will determine what happens with your
destiny and your future. The future of many young people gets barred because of
the wrong decisions they took as singles.
Samson is a case study for any young person who wants to see
the best of him become reality. You don’t want to be as gifted as Samson and
end up a failure.
Samson’s birth was announced by an angel to his parents. His
was a fine destiny God had prepared him for but during the single years when he
should have focused on fulfilling the purpose God had prepare him for, he
engaged in trivial things that ended his destiny and his life. He made some
painful mistakes.
You will be careful not to make these mistakes that Samson
made
1.
He refused to listen to his parents. In Judges
14: 1-3, Samson had been advised to pick a wife from among the Israelites by
his parents but he refuse having decided that he must marry a philistine. You
may think your parents aren’t in vogue to know what are the latest ideas or
knowledge, but they are experienced to know that in life there are basic
principles that never change from one generation to another.
2.
He allowed anger rule him. He failed to complete
his marriage rites because he was angry with his would be in-laws for asking
his would be wife the riddle he had asked them. His anger was unnecessary. He
lost his wife as a result and many people lost their lives too.
3.
He kept an unfaithful friend. Samson’s best man
who was his close associate offered to marry Samson’s wife just because his
friend was angry. It means that he was also interested in the woman and was
looking for an opportunity to get her. Mind your friends; they may hang around
to be your spoiler.
4.
He fell in love with unfaithful women. The women
Samson wanted were those who planned his hurt. They would share what should be
his secret to others. One even had accepted to marry his best friend. Another
one sold him out to those who wanted him dead. The person you call your spouse,
what is their goal around you? Check them.
5.
He lived a sexually carefree life. He was not
conscious of his destiny in his dealings with women. He thought he was too
powerful to fail. Sadly, any sexual relationship with a person who is not your
wife or husband will hurt you and the women he slept with proved to be his down
fall.
6.
He never learnt from mistakes. He had a negative
experience with the first woman and should have learnt to realign with his parents
advice to marry an Israeli. But he insisted he would still go ahead with philistine
women. Even when the signs were obvious from the pattern of questioning from
Delilah, he never sensed anything. Learn from your mistakes.
7.
He was over confident. Samson thought he was the
heavy weight champion of Israel and so could not be brought down. He trusted in
his strength and pushed his tent among those who were trying hard to kill
him. He thought he was untouchable, sadly he discovered too late that he needed
to trust in God.
8.
He left God out of his life. Though the spirit
of God would always come upon him, there was no record of Samson praying to
God. He only remembered God after his eyes had been plucked out. That moment he
prayed, God strengthened him and he killed more people at his death than when
he was alive. The difference was the God factor.
Before you cut short your destiny, you have to put your head
down to reason out your life. Don’t be overconfident about your capacity to
excuse God out of the equation. You will be doing yourself harm.
Be careful about your sexual orgies. If you must have sex,
get married. Many persons have lost their great destinies like Samson on the
patter of a one night stand. Don’t sell your destiny to those who don’t know
its value.
Solomon warns in proverbs 7:4,5 say to wisdom you are my
sister and call insight your intimate friend to preserve you from the loose
woman, from the adventures with her smooth words.
You can do things differently. You still are alive to
correct your mistakes. If Samson is allowed to speak to you today, he’d be
telling you the same things you are reading now. Be wise, pursue your vision,
flee temptation, flee youthful lust, and follow after God.
Your destiny is more important than the pleasure of a moment.
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